What do u do when some one asks you to do what is against your beliefs and ethics?
Lets call the "Action to be done" as X
Objectively analyzing:
1. X does not cause harm to anyone
2. X is encapsulation. So to say, is to delay disclosure of something
3. X gives hope to some one and those hopes and expectations can - MIGHT - come crashing down when the encapsulation ends.
4. There is a way of justification that can make X perfectly over-the-board-action.
But you believe that X is not fair. You believe that doing X is selfish and does not take into consideration the feeling of the other person.
At the same time, the person who requests X of you is a very close person to you. It hurts when that person hear your NO and breaks down.
If only the world rotated with the power of brain and not by heart….
:(
P.S. : I chose not to do X. The person so close to me, after the immediate emotional upheaval, saw my point and agreed to re consider. I was lucky.
This is like getting back to Atlas Shrugged, oh, ya i am still in that hang over and its drilling me little harder.
ReplyDeleteI choose not to do X, if i cant convince myself doing it.
Analysing some more on this, if its a person very close, he/she will not force you to do something which beyond your ethics and believes... i would'nt.
If the person does'nt know what values you hold for yourself, you live by (come on, cannot be so close if he/she does;nt know).. atleast there would be an understanding of the "NO".
If both these conditions fail, he/she deserves the NO!
It is the Ultimate question of What would you do????
ReplyDeleteThe encapsulation, as you said, is bound to be revealed.
And when it does - some one would get hurt. mainly you. And because you hurt the other person who asked you to do this - you will hurt more as the person is close to you.
From experience - I have always chosen to DO the X. But tell you the truth. The guilt of doing it has been forever with me.
So the question is - Is it "ALL'S WELL THAT ENDS WELL?????"